Monthly Archives: November 2017

I love this community! [and an update]

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Never in my life have I known a community as supportive of each other as the Asperger’s/autistic community here on WordPress. Holy cow, you guys are amazing! ❤

Before I get started, I’d like to send out a massive thank-you and shout-out to the lovely author of An Autism Observer in particular for her especially kind support! She knows what I mean. We’re working on processing as we speak! 🙂 ❤

I wanted to let everybody know what’s been cooking over the last few days!

YouTube Channel!

First, I did indeed create a The Silent Wave YouTube Channel. It does not have any videos uploaded yet, but they’re coming soon! There’s a bit of a learning curve to “doing YouTube”, especially if you’re a perfectionist like I am and want to do it “right” (well, “right” for me, anyway). 😉

Before now, I hadn’t been involved much with YouTube…

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New Research Suggests Social Issues are Down to Neurotypicals more than Autistics

As Damian Milton commented on fb: well, well, well! ☺

Critical Neurodiversity

colorful-brains-560 Picture by Joan M. Mas

Autism is seen, in popular representations, largely as a social and communication disorder. Formally framed as stemming from an autistic lack of a “social instinct”, the current dominant idea is that something is deficient or missing in autistic social cognition. Often referred to as a cognitive deficit in “empathy” or “theory of mind”, much research on autistic social issues has focused on trying to clarify and detect this inside autistic brains and minds. The search for an elusive broken “theory of mind module” or “empathy mechanism” in the brain, and its ensuing cognitive manifestations, however, has led to conflicting results – with some scientists even concluding that autistic people feel too much empathy rather than too little.

Another view is that this is not simply an individual neuro-cognitive issue, but rather a wider social problem. Against the idea that autistic people have too much or…

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Should I Use the Adjective “Diverse”?

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It has long been a pet peeve of mine that the word diverse is widely misused in the English language. Diverse is defined by Merriam-Webster (my favorite dictionary) as:

  1. differing from one another
  2. composed of distinct or unlike elements or qualities

Unfortunately, diverse gets misused to refer to people or things that differ not from one another, but from what is considered to be mainstream, dominant, or the cultural norm.

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Sometimes I don’t know what I’m feeling

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“What are you feeling?”

“I don’t know.”

“What’s wrong?

“I don’t know.”

“Why are you crying?”

“I have no idea.”

Before I realized that I was on the Asperger’s/autism spectrum, I had no idea that sometimes I didn’t know what I was feeling.  I had never really paid much attention to it.  I had ever even really thought about it.  I assumed that I could easily identify my emotions and during those times in which they remained vague and out of reach, I didn’t even really think about it.

Once I discovered that I do indeed have an established space on the Asperger’s/autism spectrum, however, that house of emotional cards began to slip.

In my early research nearly a year ago, I did what most of us newly-discovered Aspie/autistic people do: I burned up Google.  Like most of us, I searched for traits first.  I was trying to discern whether…

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Autistic with attitude – how our thinking shapes our life

This is so true – for me, anyway – that I could have written it… fake it til you make it is my ‘keep going’ mantra ☺


Twenty or so years ago I was very unwell, in a dark place. I hated myself and wanted no part in the future, A psychiatric nurse set me what was then an impossible task. She asked me to write down five pages about my ultimate goal and the steps I would take to achieve it. The is actually quite a useful strategy for some people who are depressed but to me it was an unattainable task. I didn’t even have a positive goal – most of my thoughts on the future centred around me not being in it.  The five pages lay blank and the nurse had to rethink her approach to encouraging me to be a bit more positive and future-focussed.

Fast forward twenty years and I am in a bad space again. Mood issues, some pretty odd experiences that my history tells me relate to psychotic illness –…

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They thought I was lazy…when I was just actually autistic

As someone called lazy, not paying attention (ouch, it’s too sharp) and well beyond repetition here, this rings a bell (sigh). Particularly when a teenager. Thank goodness for moving to uni… 😊

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One of my father’s Pearls of Wisdom was that “excuses are for losers”.  Although I find myself agreeing with that statement fairly often, I’m (very) well aware that humans are, well, human, and that we have our limitations.  This is especially true for people on the Asperger’s/autism spectrum.

What complicates matters is that our limitations are different for each of us.  What complicates matters more is that our limitations may change from day to day; what we could accomplish yesterday, we may not be able to do today.  And what makes the situation even worse is that some of those limitations may be invisible, and thus, unknown or unrealized.  This, too, especially true for Aspie/autistic people.

On the surface, we may appear able-bodied and of capable intelligence.

And yet…there are times when our limitations get in the way of something we want or need to do.  We get frustrated with…

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